How We Got Together & Started DD - Part 1

I have been asked several times over to provide more details on just how Alex and I got from that moment at Jay's game to married and me over his knee.. So I will now attempt to give you just that!  This could get long, so I am going to break it up into a few posts.  If you haven't read "The First Time" post you will want to go read that one first!

Here we go....

What makes a twenty year old suggest or even think of putting a feisty young lady over his knee? Well that is really easy... It's a family tradition that his grandfather passed down to him and several of his other grandchildren.  He basically told Alex that dating should be purposeful and not frivolous. The actions of dating should be done to find a wife and not to just have a moment and move on.  But in order to find said wife a man needs to know himself, have a plan and be a leader she would want to follow.  Alex said his grandfather was a really strong influence on him growing up and just witnessing the love his grandparents had was enough to make him want to know the "secret" to having that same thing.  So as each grandson would start looking at girls, grandpa would start coaching them in the tradition he was taught.

Where is Alex's father in all this you ask...  :0)

I should tell you that Alex's father was in an accident in his mid twenties and his mother actually met his dad nursing him back from his injuries.  Very sweet story and romantic as heck, I still get teary eyed when they tell the story of how they fell in love.  But this accident changed the formula of how their marriage was structured and so the family tradition skipped a generation.  Their relationship and my own parents remind me that non DD marriage can work as well, but I do see bumps they struggle over that we don't. But to be fair we have some bumps too in this dynamic that they would never even imagine tackling.  But I digress...

Back to that night at Jay's game...

After Alex walked away from me that night on the bleachers, boy howdy was I furious.  How dare he threaten to put me over his knee, just who did the jerk think we was!!!  I had worked myself up pretty good by the time Jay came off the field and I told him what a jerk of a brother he had.  The look on Jay's face when I told him exactly what Alex had said to me was not what I had expected.  Instead of him getting mad with me and verbally bashing his brother as only expected of a best friend he turned white as a ghost.  I thought he was sick, maybe got over heated so I ran for water. Only when I got back I found him with a silly grin on his face and a quick "I can't help you on this one, I agree with him".   Which had me stomping off to find another ride home because at that point I was done with the Smith boys!  Grrrrrr...

Jay spent the next several weeks making sure Alex and I crossed paths as much as possible.. If he promised to pick me up from some place, Alex would show up instead.  I got a flat tire and called Jay only to have Alex show up and save the day.  It was the flat tire incident where I stopped seeing him as a nosy older brother type and really looked at him.  When in the world did Alex, older brother to Jay and all around pain in my tush growing up get... well GORGEOUS!!  I mean it really happen that fast, I went from irritated that Jay sent Alex, to oh my goodness this is not a boy but a man changing my tire. At this point I became tongue tied and just sat back and watch him take over the situation and change the tire.  I also took the time to rethink my feelings where one Alex Smith was concerned.  I definitely peg that as the day where I started to see Alex as a man and started treating him with more respect. Alex started showing up at my house, offering to help my dad on projects. (My father to this day always has "projects", drives my mother batty.) So of course my mom would invite him to stay for dinner or lunch since he was ever so helpful and there.  Eventually he was just there in time for meals once or twice a week and it was normal, I just set the place at the table knowing he would be there.

To be continued...  :0)