I consider Alex and I to have had a pretty active and healthy sex life. We have set times over the years to close our door and have alone time and we have also had those moments of insanity where you squeeze in those few minutes and hope not to get caught. We actually believe Kaylee to be the result of one of our crazier moments of "not" getting caught. :0)
Alex probably has initiated more in our marriage, but I am not too far behind in the stats if you will.. We are both healthy in that aspect, we need our time together or we tend to get grumpy about it or lack of "it". Funny enough during the baby shower we got into a conversation about who in the various relationships initiates sex more. (Obviously in our family we don't have a lack of initiation or healthy sexual relationships, the pure size of our family alone shows that... But it's just still really funny we end up talking about who the initiators are in each family while at a baby shower of all places!!!) It was a clear cut win in most cases, with the men driving that particular activity. I had to admit, it is usually Alex that initiates it with us too. That really became a bee in my bonnet for some reason and I have been letting it buzz pretty loud this last week in my head... I love being the center of Alex's universe and when we are together alone he makes it very clear that his entire focus is on me. So why in the world would I not initiate that more often??? Hmmmmm... Can you feel a plan of action coming? Well yes, I did too!! :0)
Thus came the plan to bed my husband! Not just to bed him.. but to just make it very clear that I was not only initiating but "taking" him. Because honestly, I can't come up with one time in our 18 plus years together where I can say that I started, controlled and basically took my husband.
I was a women on a mission!
I had Kaylee spend the night down the street to "help" Lori out since she is not feeling so great right now. Our son works late on Tuesday and Thursday, so it was the perfect night to seduce Alex without having to worry about young ears. Now I can have some with my man in ANY room of the house we ... NO... I decide on. I got his favorite pasta going, garlic bread and one of our best wines open and breathing. Pandora was playing some low R&B tunes through the house and strategically placed candles lit most of the rooms that were going to be part of my plan for the evening. I went to the mall on Monday (Yes, this lady is driving once again!! Whoot, whoot!! ) and found a new night gown that is mostly lace and covers very little. The robe that goes over it doesn't do much to cover anything either so the combination was perfect! :0)
Alex walked in the door just a little after 6pm to a half dressed wife, his favorite meal and a love letter on the counter that told him he had to promise to turn himself over 100% to the crazy lady holding the bottle of wine or it was a no go... He asked if he needed to sign anything or if his word was good enough? I thought his word was good and told him he had 15 minutes to get cleaned up and back downstairs. The man all but ran for those stairs and jumped up half of them, I couldn't stop laughing. He was showered, shaved and back at the dinner table in record time and a sparkle in his eyes that hasn't been there in a long time. I miss his playful sparkle and it made me sad that I hadn't noticed its absence until just then. I need to keep a better eye on Alex, he has had a great deal of loss this year and lots of change. It's very obvious that I have more than enough mischievous sparkle for us both, I can definitely share with my husband when he is running low. :0)
What he didn't understand is why the dinner table wasn't set... So after I poured him a glass of wine, I slowly explained that dishes were not going to be needed... His body was going to do just fine for what we needed. That got a choked gasp and a spray of wine in my direction, but lucky me and my lace were already a dark shade of red so nothing soiled or damaged. I took his hand and pulled him into the living room where I had the fire place going (just the flames, no heat...sigh) and our blow up air mattress that usually lives in our RV blown up and covered with fluffy towels. I told him to sip a bit more wine and get comfortable and I would be right back, but that I wanted him laying on his back in the middle of the air mattress upon my return. (Simple instructions right? Yeah, he is really alpha.... Grrrrr) I came back to him basically circling the air mattress and eyeing it like it was going to get up and attack him at any minute. I seriously had to stand in the door way and laugh at the man before coming in and talking him into laying down. I did my best not to all out laugh at him, but did remove my robe and wiggle my hips just a bit more than needed while getting him settled. That seemed to do the trick.. :0) I told him not to move and that I was going to go get us dinner and would be right back. I was maybe gone five minutes and the man was up and moving around like a caged animal, seriously!!! But when he saw my face he ran back to the mattress and got himself back into the position I had left him earlier. "Submission is tricky isn't it my dear?" Yes, I had to say something... I mean it was the perfect time to put a bee in his bonnet right? (Yeah, I will post the outcome of that statement soon.. No more bees in this house or any heads anytime soon and who wears bonnets anymore anyway for that matter!!! Sigh...)
I had him sit up and remove his shirt and then thought better of it and had him remove all his clothes. Why risk the stains? :0) Yeah, that is my story and I am sticking to it! I know that Alex had given his word, but after his caged animal response to the mattress came to light I had a bright idea pop into my head... If you want him 100% at your mercy, the man has to be restrained or he will spend the entire time trying to submit and miss the seduction part of this evening. So off I went in search of something soft to tie my man up with. Wow, we really need to shop for materials... If I had any robbers or need to tie some one up, this house is just not equipped for that type of activity. We just aren't kinky enough.... Oh but I have a strong feeling that will not be the case any longer! I came back with the tie from his robe, Kyle's robe and some of his work socks. I know right!!! Totally need to go shopping... Anyway, now I was determined to tie my man down so I didn't have to worry about alpha hands and tendencies. So I attempted to move our heavy but very pretty and decorative iron coffee table over but couldn't so Alex had to get up and move it and then lay back down. Talk about taking some of my thunder away.. So once that was done it took me what seemed like forever to tie him up to the point I felt like he wasn't going to get away or be able to move. Then of course I had to keep checking that I didn't tie anything too tight and he wasn't turning blue or anything. Whew, this being kinky and in control is hard work!!! I am telling you my nerves were all but shot by the time he was tied up and I had also managed to polish off my second glass of wine. (I drank my courage glass before he got home!) So I fill back up my glass and sit down to decide what part of Alex I was going to be eating my pasta from. I put a bit on his chest and moved it around with my teeth and tongue, making sure that the heat was felt on his nipples and most sensitive areas. There wasn't a part of him from his neck down to his lovely man parts that wasn't stained orange by the time I was done. I did give him bites between my playing and nibbles. I even drank wine from his belly button at one point. IT WAS AMAZING!!!
Then it was time for dessert... Or in this case pineapple sliced into rings that went around a certain part of Alex that was at full attention. :0) Once I ate my dessert and cleaned up Alex it was just a matter of lowering myself onto him and setting my own pace. It was the first time in our relationship that I had complete control over how we made love and setting the pace for both of us to find release. I blew cherries on his stomach, pulled and pinched his nipples and just had the time of my life! Alex was very graceful and pretty much put up with it all, as at the end he just pulled hard enough and off came all my knots. (I am going to find me a really good boy scout and hold them hostage until they teach me how to tie a knot that Alex can't get out of... That just sounds wrong doesn't it? :0)) He did a great job submitting for me and letting me have my night of seduction and kink. We took a shower together and then tumbled into bed for yet one more round. Wow, Tuesday night and early wednesday morning was WONDERFUL!!!
Stay tuned and I will post about last night.... Alex decided he was taking control back!