I consider Alex and I to have had a pretty active and healthy sex life. We have set times over the years to close our door and have alone time and we have also had those moments of insanity where you squeeze in those few minutes and hope not to get caught. We actually believe Kaylee to be the result of one of our crazier moments of "not" getting caught. :0)
Alex probably has initiated more in our marriage, but I am not too far behind in the stats if you will.. We are both healthy in that aspect, we need our time together or we tend to get grumpy about it or lack of "it". Funny enough during the baby shower we got into a conversation about who in the various relationships initiates sex more. (Obviously in our family we don't have a lack of initiation or healthy sexual relationships, the pure size of our family alone shows that... But it's just still really funny we end up talking about who the initiators are in each family while at a baby shower of all places!!!) It was a clear cut win in most cases, with the men driving that particular activity. I had to admit, it is usually Alex that initiates it with us too. That really became a bee in my bonnet for some reason and I have been letting it buzz pretty loud this last week in my head... I love being the center of Alex's universe and when we are together alone he makes it very clear that his entire focus is on me. So why in the world would I not initiate that more often??? Hmmmmm... Can you feel a plan of action coming? Well yes, I did too!! :0)
Thus came the plan to bed my husband! Not just to bed him.. but to just make it very clear that I was not only initiating but "taking" him. Because honestly, I can't come up with one time in our 18 plus years together where I can say that I started, controlled and basically took my husband.
I was a women on a mission!
Tuesday Night:
I had Kaylee spend the night down the street to "help" Lori out since she is not feeling so great right now. Our son works late on Tuesday and Thursday, so it was the perfect night to seduce Alex without having to worry about young ears. Now I can have some with my man in ANY room of the house we ... NO... I decide on. I got his favorite pasta going, garlic bread and one of our best wines open and breathing. Pandora was playing some low R&B tunes through the house and strategically placed candles lit most of the rooms that were going to be part of my plan for the evening. I went to the mall on Monday (Yes, this lady is driving once again!! Whoot, whoot!! ) and found a new night gown that is mostly lace and covers very little. The robe that goes over it doesn't do much to cover anything either so the combination was perfect! :0)
Alex walked in the door just a little after 6pm to a half dressed wife, his favorite meal and a love letter on the counter that told him he had to promise to turn himself over 100% to the crazy lady holding the bottle of wine or it was a no go... He asked if he needed to sign anything or if his word was good enough? I thought his word was good and told him he had 15 minutes to get cleaned up and back downstairs. The man all but ran for those stairs and jumped up half of them, I couldn't stop laughing. He was showered, shaved and back at the dinner table in record time and a sparkle in his eyes that hasn't been there in a long time. I miss his playful sparkle and it made me sad that I hadn't noticed its absence until just then. I need to keep a better eye on Alex, he has had a great deal of loss this year and lots of change. It's very obvious that I have more than enough mischievous sparkle for us both, I can definitely share with my husband when he is running low. :0)
What he didn't understand is why the dinner table wasn't set... So after I poured him a glass of wine, I slowly explained that dishes were not going to be needed... His body was going to do just fine for what we needed. That got a choked gasp and a spray of wine in my direction, but lucky me and my lace were already a dark shade of red so nothing soiled or damaged. I took his hand and pulled him into the living room where I had the fire place going (just the flames, no heat...sigh) and our blow up air mattress that usually lives in our RV blown up and covered with fluffy towels. I told him to sip a bit more wine and get comfortable and I would be right back, but that I wanted him laying on his back in the middle of the air mattress upon my return. (Simple instructions right? Yeah, he is really alpha.... Grrrrr) I came back to him basically circling the air mattress and eyeing it like it was going to get up and attack him at any minute. I seriously had to stand in the door way and laugh at the man before coming in and talking him into laying down. I did my best not to all out laugh at him, but did remove my robe and wiggle my hips just a bit more than needed while getting him settled. That seemed to do the trick.. :0) I told him not to move and that I was going to go get us dinner and would be right back. I was maybe gone five minutes and the man was up and moving around like a caged animal, seriously!!! But when he saw my face he ran back to the mattress and got himself back into the position I had left him earlier. "Submission is tricky isn't it my dear?" Yes, I had to say something... I mean it was the perfect time to put a bee in his bonnet right? (Yeah, I will post the outcome of that statement soon.. No more bees in this house or any heads anytime soon and who wears bonnets anymore anyway for that matter!!! Sigh...)
I had him sit up and remove his shirt and then thought better of it and had him remove all his clothes. Why risk the stains? :0) Yeah, that is my story and I am sticking to it! I know that Alex had given his word, but after his caged animal response to the mattress came to light I had a bright idea pop into my head... If you want him 100% at your mercy, the man has to be restrained or he will spend the entire time trying to submit and miss the seduction part of this evening. So off I went in search of something soft to tie my man up with. Wow, we really need to shop for materials... If I had any robbers or need to tie some one up, this house is just not equipped for that type of activity. We just aren't kinky enough.... Oh but I have a strong feeling that will not be the case any longer! I came back with the tie from his robe, Kyle's robe and some of his work socks. I know right!!! Totally need to go shopping... Anyway, now I was determined to tie my man down so I didn't have to worry about alpha hands and tendencies. So I attempted to move our heavy but very pretty and decorative iron coffee table over but couldn't so Alex had to get up and move it and then lay back down. Talk about taking some of my thunder away.. So once that was done it took me what seemed like forever to tie him up to the point I felt like he wasn't going to get away or be able to move. Then of course I had to keep checking that I didn't tie anything too tight and he wasn't turning blue or anything. Whew, this being kinky and in control is hard work!!! I am telling you my nerves were all but shot by the time he was tied up and I had also managed to polish off my second glass of wine. (I drank my courage glass before he got home!) So I fill back up my glass and sit down to decide what part of Alex I was going to be eating my pasta from. I put a bit on his chest and moved it around with my teeth and tongue, making sure that the heat was felt on his nipples and most sensitive areas. There wasn't a part of him from his neck down to his lovely man parts that wasn't stained orange by the time I was done. I did give him bites between my playing and nibbles. I even drank wine from his belly button at one point. IT WAS AMAZING!!!
Then it was time for dessert... Or in this case pineapple sliced into rings that went around a certain part of Alex that was at full attention. :0) Once I ate my dessert and cleaned up Alex it was just a matter of lowering myself onto him and setting my own pace. It was the first time in our relationship that I had complete control over how we made love and setting the pace for both of us to find release. I blew cherries on his stomach, pulled and pinched his nipples and just had the time of my life! Alex was very graceful and pretty much put up with it all, as at the end he just pulled hard enough and off came all my knots. (I am going to find me a really good boy scout and hold them hostage until they teach me how to tie a knot that Alex can't get out of... That just sounds wrong doesn't it? :0)) He did a great job submitting for me and letting me have my night of seduction and kink. We took a shower together and then tumbled into bed for yet one more round. Wow, Tuesday night and early wednesday morning was WONDERFUL!!!
Stay tuned and I will post about last night.... Alex decided he was taking control back!
Thursday, September 25, 2014
Friday, September 19, 2014
Baby Madness
With the size of this family it doesn't really amaze me that we find ourselves in this situation, but wow the baby madness has hit this family for sure!
Kenzie is due technically on the 25th of this month, but she is huge (sorry she really is..) and her tummy dropped big time last week. We had her baby shower this last weekend and it was a huge success and they have everything they now need to welcome their new little boy... They won't tell us the name, so that is driving us all a bit crazy. :0) We are taking baby bets on when the little guy will decide to join us, my bet is Monday the 22nd. Alex lost as his was yesterday and I think he was trying to cheat because I heard him on the phone talking about driving on bumpy streets and dirt roads to get things moving.. Yeah cheater, cheater pumpkin eater!!!
Laci, our second bride of the year (or actually first since she got married first but wasn't suppose to.. oh the drama of it all. See, still haven't gotten fully over all that yet.) is due on January 3rd. But we just found out that she is cooking two in the oven and they don't usually go full term. So the bets have already started on a set of Christmas babies. She is also shopping for blue, as they are both boys. Her baby shower is going to be right before Thanksgiving, as we will have more family in town at that time.
During the baby shower we had two more announcements... Stacey and Amy are both pregnant and so we will be adding more babies come February and March! Big cheers went up and more baby madness was created and celebrated. We will have a bunch of cousins all the same age to play and reek havoc during family holidays. So fun to watch all these families start and grow over the years.
Now the surprise baby announcement that NONE of us saw coming, including the parents... Lori and Jay are going to have another baby! They just sent their oldest off to college and that was just REALLY hard for all of them and now this... Wow!! Lori has been feeling really off lately but had chalked it up to missing her oldest and trying to get back into the swing of teaching school after having the summer off. She finally went to the doctor on Monday and she and Jay came down last night and told us the happy news. They are really struggling with this, as they really were not thinking of having more, as six was a handful to begin with... Plus Lori went back to teaching now that all their little ones were pre-school/school age, so she can help contribute to the bills. So when they came over we knew right away something was up and Alex being ....well Alex, went straight first in to find out what was going on. Once we got them sitting and offered to get some wine and Lori's eyes got the size of saucers I sort of just clued right in and sat right done next to her and whispered... Really?
Alex: "What really?"
Jay: "Seriously? How can you two do that?"
Alex: "Do what? Will some one tell me what is going on?"
Lori: " I am due February 5th, I was pregnant before Stacey and Amy both and had no clue. Or maybe was that much in denial, I mean six babies and now a seventh."
Alex: "Are you sure?"
Yes, he was a bit slow on this one but seriously this was a HUGE surprise for everyone. Lori and I even thought she might be starting menopause earlier this year. She was not regular anymore and was having hot flashes, of course this was during the double marriages and funerals and lots of emotions were high... She was meaning to get to the doctor to have some blood work done to check and see if she was starting the big "M", but just never had the time.
Me: "See, I thought we were too young to start menopause."
Jay and Alex did a stereo "WHAT?" to that statement. Ooops. Did we forget to mention that Lori hadn't been feeling so well and we concluded maybe we were getting close to that age of .... MENOPAUSE!
Lori:"Wow, I really wish I could have a glass of wine right about now."
Jay:"You didn't tell me you thought you were going into menopause."
Lori:"I wasn't sure and we had lots of stuff going on all year that it could have been anything that was making me feel off."
Jay:"You have to tell me when you don't feel right, no matter what you might think is happening. I can't help or even know to watch for signs you need help if you don't talk to me and let me know what you are feeling. When exactly did you two decide that it was menopause making you feel off?"
I think we both gulped together at that point and boy howdy I have seen that look on Jay's face before and was SUPER happy it wasn't me that had to answer that particular question. Lori told him in a whisper it was around April or May and Jay decided they would finish this conversation later at home.
Me:"Dang, you will need baby monitors again."
Lori:"Can you hear me now?" (She barely had that out and was laughing and so were the men.)
Me:"Oh shut up!" (Yeah, I had a laugh too..)
<Sorry, you would have had to read an older post to understand that exchange.. Needless to say baby monitors have gotten us into trouble with our men in the past.>
We talked about all her worries and I think she left here feeling much better about things. I am super excited for them and super excited for me... I get to watch the new baby after Lori delivers and goes back to work!! Yahoo... I am super excited to spend so much time with this new little one and it was Alex's idea! :0) I am turning the guest bedroom into a nursery/guest bedroom combo! Alex is already setting limits to my creativity, but it is going to be AMAZING. We won't know for a few more weeks what she is having, but the consensus down the street is they want another girl. So we will wait and see...
I just know that all these little ones are coming into GREAT families and are going to be surrounded by love. Oh and I need to start planning, cause Lori is going to have the BEST baby shower ever!! I almost feel sorry for Alex already. :0)
Have a great weekend!!
Kenzie is due technically on the 25th of this month, but she is huge (sorry she really is..) and her tummy dropped big time last week. We had her baby shower this last weekend and it was a huge success and they have everything they now need to welcome their new little boy... They won't tell us the name, so that is driving us all a bit crazy. :0) We are taking baby bets on when the little guy will decide to join us, my bet is Monday the 22nd. Alex lost as his was yesterday and I think he was trying to cheat because I heard him on the phone talking about driving on bumpy streets and dirt roads to get things moving.. Yeah cheater, cheater pumpkin eater!!!
Laci, our second bride of the year (or actually first since she got married first but wasn't suppose to.. oh the drama of it all. See, still haven't gotten fully over all that yet.) is due on January 3rd. But we just found out that she is cooking two in the oven and they don't usually go full term. So the bets have already started on a set of Christmas babies. She is also shopping for blue, as they are both boys. Her baby shower is going to be right before Thanksgiving, as we will have more family in town at that time.
During the baby shower we had two more announcements... Stacey and Amy are both pregnant and so we will be adding more babies come February and March! Big cheers went up and more baby madness was created and celebrated. We will have a bunch of cousins all the same age to play and reek havoc during family holidays. So fun to watch all these families start and grow over the years.
Now the surprise baby announcement that NONE of us saw coming, including the parents... Lori and Jay are going to have another baby! They just sent their oldest off to college and that was just REALLY hard for all of them and now this... Wow!! Lori has been feeling really off lately but had chalked it up to missing her oldest and trying to get back into the swing of teaching school after having the summer off. She finally went to the doctor on Monday and she and Jay came down last night and told us the happy news. They are really struggling with this, as they really were not thinking of having more, as six was a handful to begin with... Plus Lori went back to teaching now that all their little ones were pre-school/school age, so she can help contribute to the bills. So when they came over we knew right away something was up and Alex being ....well Alex, went straight first in to find out what was going on. Once we got them sitting and offered to get some wine and Lori's eyes got the size of saucers I sort of just clued right in and sat right done next to her and whispered... Really?
Alex: "What really?"
Jay: "Seriously? How can you two do that?"
Alex: "Do what? Will some one tell me what is going on?"
Lori: " I am due February 5th, I was pregnant before Stacey and Amy both and had no clue. Or maybe was that much in denial, I mean six babies and now a seventh."
Alex: "Are you sure?"
Yes, he was a bit slow on this one but seriously this was a HUGE surprise for everyone. Lori and I even thought she might be starting menopause earlier this year. She was not regular anymore and was having hot flashes, of course this was during the double marriages and funerals and lots of emotions were high... She was meaning to get to the doctor to have some blood work done to check and see if she was starting the big "M", but just never had the time.
Me: "See, I thought we were too young to start menopause."
Jay and Alex did a stereo "WHAT?" to that statement. Ooops. Did we forget to mention that Lori hadn't been feeling so well and we concluded maybe we were getting close to that age of .... MENOPAUSE!
Lori:"Wow, I really wish I could have a glass of wine right about now."
Jay:"You didn't tell me you thought you were going into menopause."
Lori:"I wasn't sure and we had lots of stuff going on all year that it could have been anything that was making me feel off."
Jay:"You have to tell me when you don't feel right, no matter what you might think is happening. I can't help or even know to watch for signs you need help if you don't talk to me and let me know what you are feeling. When exactly did you two decide that it was menopause making you feel off?"
I think we both gulped together at that point and boy howdy I have seen that look on Jay's face before and was SUPER happy it wasn't me that had to answer that particular question. Lori told him in a whisper it was around April or May and Jay decided they would finish this conversation later at home.
Me:"Dang, you will need baby monitors again."
Lori:"Can you hear me now?" (She barely had that out and was laughing and so were the men.)
Me:"Oh shut up!" (Yeah, I had a laugh too..)
<Sorry, you would have had to read an older post to understand that exchange.. Needless to say baby monitors have gotten us into trouble with our men in the past.>
We talked about all her worries and I think she left here feeling much better about things. I am super excited for them and super excited for me... I get to watch the new baby after Lori delivers and goes back to work!! Yahoo... I am super excited to spend so much time with this new little one and it was Alex's idea! :0) I am turning the guest bedroom into a nursery/guest bedroom combo! Alex is already setting limits to my creativity, but it is going to be AMAZING. We won't know for a few more weeks what she is having, but the consensus down the street is they want another girl. So we will wait and see...
I just know that all these little ones are coming into GREAT families and are going to be surrounded by love. Oh and I need to start planning, cause Lori is going to have the BEST baby shower ever!! I almost feel sorry for Alex already. :0)
Have a great weekend!!
Tuesday, September 9, 2014
Drying Out..
So yesterday we had LOTS of wet around here!! We started getting rain on Sunday evening or more closer to Monday morning between midnight and 1am. It continued in a down pour for 5 hours straight and left us living in a lake. Needless to say our desert landscaping is not done to help the flow of water... We just don't need that here! :0)
They closed all the schools around here and most the roads were not visible, so Alex ended up turning around and coming right back home too. So we had a family fun day!! I made a big pot of chili and fresh bread (yes, not really cold enough but we turned the AC up a bit and went with it.) and we watched some movies. Then the board games came out and we had a pretty competitive game of old school Monopoly that was super close, but Alex took the crown. Oh that is important, so I must explain... You see about ten years ago Alex dressed up as a king for Halloween and he found this really nice crown. He didn't want to put it away after the holiday and so it became a trophy for our family game nights, so if you won that weekend you had the crown for the week.
Since the kids have gotten older we haven't had as many game nights in the past year or so... Well the crown was brought out and we had a major battle! Over the years our board game collection has grown pretty large, so we had a few rounds of rock, paper and scissors to decide what would be played.
Alex and I retired up to our room around 6pm to watch Monday night football, he actually joined a Fantasy football league this year!! (Was maybe hoping for a repeat of last year's Fantasy Football spanking...) So we both had our iPads, munchies and drink of choice lined up and got ready for the fun to begin... Only we sort of got side tracked a bit!
I spilled my vitamin water on myself and it's the Dragon Fruit flavor so it's bright red, not good for a white (I know after Labor day, but I was at home no body saw!!) jump suit. So I took it off and was rinsing it in the bath when Alex decided to help... Well we ended up in the tub and our bathroom floor looked like our yard by the time we were done sloshing around. Wink!
No FF spanking, but I still have a very LONG season of football to get another one! HA! We both did well in our leagues, but we didn't really watch very much football.. Guess we should try harder on Thursday. :0)
Not our house, but one a few miles away actually..
Yes, our crown is this cheesy!! :0)
Since the kids have gotten older we haven't had as many game nights in the past year or so... Well the crown was brought out and we had a major battle! Over the years our board game collection has grown pretty large, so we had a few rounds of rock, paper and scissors to decide what would be played.
Alex and I retired up to our room around 6pm to watch Monday night football, he actually joined a Fantasy football league this year!! (Was maybe hoping for a repeat of last year's Fantasy Football spanking...) So we both had our iPads, munchies and drink of choice lined up and got ready for the fun to begin... Only we sort of got side tracked a bit!
I spilled my vitamin water on myself and it's the Dragon Fruit flavor so it's bright red, not good for a white (I know after Labor day, but I was at home no body saw!!) jump suit. So I took it off and was rinsing it in the bath when Alex decided to help... Well we ended up in the tub and our bathroom floor looked like our yard by the time we were done sloshing around. Wink!
No FF spanking, but I still have a very LONG season of football to get another one! HA! We both did well in our leagues, but we didn't really watch very much football.. Guess we should try harder on Thursday. :0)
Friday, September 5, 2014
Questions Answered...
Here is a truth and dare game Han van Meergen had on his site and then Leigh posted on Aimless Ramblings were I "borrowed" it. Looked fun for a Friday post!!
Nope, not in the way I think this question is asking. :0)
7.Do you have any nicknames?
10.Dyed your hair?
11.Soup or salad?
12.Vegetable or meat?
14.Smoke cigarettes?
16.Do any hard drugs?
17.Have you had sex today?
18.Have you ever fallen asleep in someones arms?
19.The relationship between you and the person you last texted?
20.Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes?
24.Had to lie to EVERYONE about how you felt?
25.Do you have a Boyfriend/Girlfriend?
26.Do you have Long hair OR short hair?
27.First thing you notice to a guy?
28.Do you sing in the shower?
29.Do you dance in the car?
30.Where were you yesterday?
31.Ever used a bow and arrow?
32.Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer?
33.Do you think musicals are cheesy?
34.Is Christmas stressful?
35.Favorite type of fruit pie?
36.Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid?
37.Do you believe in ghosts?
38.Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?
39.Take a vitamin daily?
40.Wear slippers?
41.Wear a bath robe?
42.What do you wear to bed?
43.Do you want to get married?
46.How can I win your heart?
48.Shy OR open?
1.Kissed a girl?
Nope, not in the way I think this question is asking. :0)
2.Kissed a boy?
Yes
3.Had sex in public?
Yes, but no body could see anything and they didn't know what was going on.
Very stealth.
Very stealth.
4.What’s your religion?
Protestant
5.What does your URL mean?
Loving Me Always... My hubby loves me always, even when I make his life
difficult or keep him on his toes!! HA! :0)
difficult or keep him on his toes!! HA! :0)
6.Reason you joined blogland?
I found reading blogs so much fun and then lost my outlet for releasing
pent up frustration so decided to blog as my new outlet. I still miss kick
boxing, but this blog has been such a wonderful experience that I am super
happy to have it.
pent up frustration so decided to blog as my new outlet. I still miss kick
boxing, but this blog has been such a wonderful experience that I am super
happy to have it.
7.Do you have any nicknames?
Yes! Glad the next question wasn't asking for any of them.. :0)
8.Do you like bubble bath?
I take my bubble bath time VERY seriously and guard it with everything I have.
So that it a long winded YES!
So that it a long winded YES!
9.Kissed in the rain?
Yes
10.Dyed your hair?
Several times
11.Soup or salad?
I am more of a salad person..
12.Vegetable or meat?
Veggies please! :0)
13.Go out drinking?
Hmmmm.. Wow, I really can't remember the last time we went out
for a Happy Hour. I guess we are home bodies with our own stash of
wine to enjoy.
for a Happy Hour. I guess we are home bodies with our own stash of
wine to enjoy.
14.Smoke cigarettes?
Nope
15.Smoke weed?
Nope. But I do eat edibles for pain management for my back issues.
We have learned a BUNCH about the uses of medical marijuana in the
last year. It's just amazing what this stuff can do to help in so many ways!
We have a friend that gives CBD oil to their dog who was full of cancerous
tumors and they are actually shrinking... So amazing.
We have learned a BUNCH about the uses of medical marijuana in the
last year. It's just amazing what this stuff can do to help in so many ways!
We have a friend that gives CBD oil to their dog who was full of cancerous
tumors and they are actually shrinking... So amazing.
16.Do any hard drugs?
Nope
17.Have you had sex today?
Dang it.. No! I will have to do something about that when Alex gets home
tonight.
tonight.
18.Have you ever fallen asleep in someones arms?
Sure have.. I actually do it all the time.
19.The relationship between you and the person you last texted?
My Mom.. :0)
20.Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes?
Yes. I have really super blue eyes, so I have people asking me if I wear
colored contacts to make them this blue.. Nope, just the bonus of being part Irish.
colored contacts to make them this blue.. Nope, just the bonus of being part Irish.
21.Religious OR non-religious?
Religious
22.Tried to commit suicide?
Nope
23.The last time you felt broken?
I had a miscarriage before Kyle was born, that was really hard and as
close to broken as I have ever gotten.
close to broken as I have ever gotten.
24.Had to lie to EVERYONE about how you felt?
Yes!!! But I think it is to due with the size of Alex's family. To keep
the peace we must cover some of the "YOU ARE DRIVING ME INSANE"
moments.
the peace we must cover some of the "YOU ARE DRIVING ME INSANE"
moments.
25.Do you have a Boyfriend/Girlfriend?
Nope, just my hubby bless his heart. :0)
26.Do you have Long hair OR short hair?
Ugh.. Long! Would love to try short or even medium length, but Alex
loves it long..
loves it long..
27.First thing you notice to a guy?
Eyes or smile...
28.Do you sing in the shower?
Heck yeah!!
29.Do you dance in the car?
Yes, I am probably very entertaining to the cars around me. :0)
30.Where were you yesterday?
At home... Still can't drive! Sigh.
31.Ever used a bow and arrow?
Yes, but I absolutely had to be doing it wrong because it killed my
left fore arm. Literally the bow snapped back and hit me hard enough
to leave a welt that turned really pretty colors.
left fore arm. Literally the bow snapped back and hit me hard enough
to leave a welt that turned really pretty colors.
32.Last time you got a portrait taken by a photographer?
Oh my goodness let me think... The weddings, so early spring.
33.Do you think musicals are cheesy?
No way, love musicals!
34.Is Christmas stressful?
It can be..
35.Favorite type of fruit pie?
Ick.. Sorry, none.
36.Occupations you wanted to be when you were a kid?
School teacher or nurse..
37.Do you believe in ghosts?
I do believe in spirits and that the veil between us (spiritual world
and human world) is getting thinner. But again, I am a christian and use
the bible as reference on these things.
and human world) is getting thinner. But again, I am a christian and use
the bible as reference on these things.
38.Ever have a Deja-vu feeling?
Oh my goodness yes...
39.Take a vitamin daily?
Absolutely!!
40.Wear slippers?
Yes, now that we live out in the desert and have scorpions and combat
boot wearing spiders!
boot wearing spiders!
41.Wear a bath robe?
Um.. No, but I do own one. :0)
42.What do you wear to bed?
As little as possible.
43.Do you want to get married?
I am married.
44.Can you curl your tongue?
Yes
Relationship preference:
45.How many relationships have you had?
45.How many relationships have you had?
I had a few check yes or no relationships growing up, but I married my
first real boyfriend. :0)
first real boyfriend. :0)
46.How can I win your heart?
It's been won.
47.What makes a great relationship?
Love, Patience, kindness (even when you don't feel like being kind), trust,
faithfulness and communication.
faithfulness and communication.
48.Shy OR open?
I can be either, just depends on the situation or my surroundings.
Have a great weekend!!! :0)
Thursday, August 28, 2014
Plans Are Over Rated Too!!
We had a bit of a wild night last night... I had made sure that Alex and I would be alone and that his favorite dinner and wine were ready the second he walked into the front door. My plan was to let him know just how sorry I was about the speeding tickets and all his extra worry about my driving this year. And if all that extra effort might change his mind about me driving... Well then all the better.
But instead I had.... two mind blowing orgasms and he added more time to my sentence.
Dang, but that didn't turn out as planned and yet I am still on cloud nine. :0)
This is what went down...
Romantic table set for two with fresh flowers, candles just ready to be lit and a wonderful Merlot opened and breathing. The entire house smelled of stuffed shells and garlic bread warm and waiting in the oven. I was up in my bathroom putting myself together without making it looking like I am putting myself together. (Yeah, you ladies know what I am saying!) Now all I need to do is head downstairs and wait for my man to arrive home. But wait, that is the garage door now so one last touch up and off I go. He meets me on the stairs and does the up and down look but he has his intense alpha look, which has me doing a double take and quickly going over my day to figure out what put that look in place... I started down and he started up and my smile is shaking at this point, as I can't figure out why he looks so... INTENSE. We make it to the middle of the steps and then he has me up against the wall and his hands are all over. He takes my mouth which was half open in shock, my hands are pulled above my head. He pushes against me a bit harder and he is at my ear in a low voice...
Alex: "Dinner for two, candles and wine..Now why does that smell like some one is trying to seduce some one else? Hmmmm."
Me: "I just wanted to show my man some love, is that so wrong?" (And why am I so out of breath all the sudden?)
Alex: "Only when that love has ulterior motives attached... Is that the case tonight or is this just because?"
Me: "Um..."
Alex: "That is what I thought.... So it looks like you need to be reminded."
With that I was flipped around so that I was now face to face with the wall and he now had my hands pushed up above my head on the wall.
Alex: "Move your hands and your bottom will pay, understood?"
Me: "Yes sir."
Oh heck, when in the world did I pull sir out of my pocket when I wasn't seeing a paddle in the mans hands. This was a new one for me, but my goodness I was not well versed in being put up against a wall like this in the middle of a stair case hello!!! Gut instinct was to give this man 100% respect and what ever else he wanted...
My sun dress went up and he actually tied the darn thing around my wrists above my head... He kissed my neck and worked his way down my shoulders and down my back until he reached my underwear. Then in one motion he ripped the side and off they went and dang those were some nice undies he just killed... Sigh. I got a swat on my left cheek and a gruff voice telling me that he didn't like me wearing underwear they just get in his way. Yes, but when you are wearing a sun dress it is sorta of a needed item. I didn't explain that right then, I was not really able to voice much at this point but it's amazing how the mind can still flutter around and make some sense while all this was going on....
I heard the zipper on his pants and could hear the cloth as they hit the floor and then my legs were pushed further a part. Then he bent down and decided my left cheek could use a kiss after seeing his hand print and then moved over and sweetly kissed the right side. (How did I know this, he was telling me his thoughts in a very low gruff voice that sent chills up and down my spine.) I was super turned on and so very excited so when the sharp pain of teeth biting my right cheek registered I was warped from excited to surprised to nervous... This man has never left marks or been this amorous outside of our bedroom. Don't get me wrong, we have had lots of fun outside of our bedroom...But not this intense.
I was breathing really hard at this point and don't think I have ever been this turned on EVER! (So this alpha male takes over the world.. or me...works REALLY well for me.) Then he was back up and I was being bent at the waist and then he was in me... One thrust and he was home and we were both up against that wall together and both consumed by our needs and wants for each other that we just stood there for moments like that.... Then he started to move slowly at first and then got a harder rhythm that took my breath away. Between our position on the steps and our height difference my feet were not touching any ground during most of this as the motion from his hips moved me up and the arm he had around my waist was lifting. We were both breathing hard and sucking for air and then all I could do was hold on to that dang wall and let the sensations roll over me one after the other, it was mind blowing that orgasim that hit me. Then Alex let out a loud yell and held us there against that wall while I could feel him pulsing into me over and over... It took us several minutes to recover and when I finally had some sense back and started to move my hands I heard.
"Don't" in my ear and froze. He was still pulling in air and finding his ground again, but once he did he asked me...
Alex: "Who is in charge here?"
Me: "You."
Alex: "Good answer."
He kissed my neck and swatted my bottom and said let's get a shower and then eat what smells like one of his favorites. Our shower was the exact opposite of what had just happen on the steps, he was slow and careful with me. He started at my head washing my hair and then he washed me from head to toe very, very slowly and with me completely still and taking it all. When I was washed he asked me to stand and watch as he cleaned himself and then he got us out and dried us both off. I was put into one of his t-shirts and he put on some boxers and down to the kitchen we went hand in hand. He decided what was done and in what order and we only ate off one plate with him offering up the food for us both. Once we finished and took the rest of the wine up to bed, he pulled off my shirt and started his slow exploration once more... I have never felt so much intense attention from him like this, he covered every inch of my body several times last night and he took his time in doing it...
His parting words this morning were that he loved me and wanted me safe and ready for him when he gets home tonight... No ulterior motives other than to love and trust my husband. To that he got a really big ... "Yes sir!" (No paddles or walls needed for this one!)
Last night while holding me in his arms Alex told me that he liked my post on what I have learned over the last year. He said that he found my comment on how life has many stages and we will change for each stage really hit home for him. He lost both his parents this year and that has made a huge impact on him as a parent and husband. I have noticed he is making extra time for the kids these days and where he was once easier on "family" time being missed he is dead set against letting it happen anymore. He is much more protective of me and harder on me now too, this is a huge thing for us right now. I need to meet him in the middle and make it easier for him by not making him worry so much... Which would be me staying off ladders, not speeding and generally thinking through impulsive ideas a bit more before jumping head first into them. Sigh... All super hard for me, but within my grasp. We promised to grow old together and I am going to do my best to live up to that agreement!!
But instead I had.... two mind blowing orgasms and he added more time to my sentence.
Dang, but that didn't turn out as planned and yet I am still on cloud nine. :0)
This is what went down...
Romantic table set for two with fresh flowers, candles just ready to be lit and a wonderful Merlot opened and breathing. The entire house smelled of stuffed shells and garlic bread warm and waiting in the oven. I was up in my bathroom putting myself together without making it looking like I am putting myself together. (Yeah, you ladies know what I am saying!) Now all I need to do is head downstairs and wait for my man to arrive home. But wait, that is the garage door now so one last touch up and off I go. He meets me on the stairs and does the up and down look but he has his intense alpha look, which has me doing a double take and quickly going over my day to figure out what put that look in place... I started down and he started up and my smile is shaking at this point, as I can't figure out why he looks so... INTENSE. We make it to the middle of the steps and then he has me up against the wall and his hands are all over. He takes my mouth which was half open in shock, my hands are pulled above my head. He pushes against me a bit harder and he is at my ear in a low voice...
Alex: "Dinner for two, candles and wine..Now why does that smell like some one is trying to seduce some one else? Hmmmm."
Me: "I just wanted to show my man some love, is that so wrong?" (And why am I so out of breath all the sudden?)
Alex: "Only when that love has ulterior motives attached... Is that the case tonight or is this just because?"
Me: "Um..."
Alex: "That is what I thought.... So it looks like you need to be reminded."
With that I was flipped around so that I was now face to face with the wall and he now had my hands pushed up above my head on the wall.
Alex: "Move your hands and your bottom will pay, understood?"
Me: "Yes sir."
Oh heck, when in the world did I pull sir out of my pocket when I wasn't seeing a paddle in the mans hands. This was a new one for me, but my goodness I was not well versed in being put up against a wall like this in the middle of a stair case hello!!! Gut instinct was to give this man 100% respect and what ever else he wanted...
My sun dress went up and he actually tied the darn thing around my wrists above my head... He kissed my neck and worked his way down my shoulders and down my back until he reached my underwear. Then in one motion he ripped the side and off they went and dang those were some nice undies he just killed... Sigh. I got a swat on my left cheek and a gruff voice telling me that he didn't like me wearing underwear they just get in his way. Yes, but when you are wearing a sun dress it is sorta of a needed item. I didn't explain that right then, I was not really able to voice much at this point but it's amazing how the mind can still flutter around and make some sense while all this was going on....
I heard the zipper on his pants and could hear the cloth as they hit the floor and then my legs were pushed further a part. Then he bent down and decided my left cheek could use a kiss after seeing his hand print and then moved over and sweetly kissed the right side. (How did I know this, he was telling me his thoughts in a very low gruff voice that sent chills up and down my spine.) I was super turned on and so very excited so when the sharp pain of teeth biting my right cheek registered I was warped from excited to surprised to nervous... This man has never left marks or been this amorous outside of our bedroom. Don't get me wrong, we have had lots of fun outside of our bedroom...But not this intense.
I was breathing really hard at this point and don't think I have ever been this turned on EVER! (So this alpha male takes over the world.. or me...works REALLY well for me.) Then he was back up and I was being bent at the waist and then he was in me... One thrust and he was home and we were both up against that wall together and both consumed by our needs and wants for each other that we just stood there for moments like that.... Then he started to move slowly at first and then got a harder rhythm that took my breath away. Between our position on the steps and our height difference my feet were not touching any ground during most of this as the motion from his hips moved me up and the arm he had around my waist was lifting. We were both breathing hard and sucking for air and then all I could do was hold on to that dang wall and let the sensations roll over me one after the other, it was mind blowing that orgasim that hit me. Then Alex let out a loud yell and held us there against that wall while I could feel him pulsing into me over and over... It took us several minutes to recover and when I finally had some sense back and started to move my hands I heard.
"Don't" in my ear and froze. He was still pulling in air and finding his ground again, but once he did he asked me...
Alex: "Who is in charge here?"
Me: "You."
Alex: "Good answer."
He kissed my neck and swatted my bottom and said let's get a shower and then eat what smells like one of his favorites. Our shower was the exact opposite of what had just happen on the steps, he was slow and careful with me. He started at my head washing my hair and then he washed me from head to toe very, very slowly and with me completely still and taking it all. When I was washed he asked me to stand and watch as he cleaned himself and then he got us out and dried us both off. I was put into one of his t-shirts and he put on some boxers and down to the kitchen we went hand in hand. He decided what was done and in what order and we only ate off one plate with him offering up the food for us both. Once we finished and took the rest of the wine up to bed, he pulled off my shirt and started his slow exploration once more... I have never felt so much intense attention from him like this, he covered every inch of my body several times last night and he took his time in doing it...
His parting words this morning were that he loved me and wanted me safe and ready for him when he gets home tonight... No ulterior motives other than to love and trust my husband. To that he got a really big ... "Yes sir!" (No paddles or walls needed for this one!)
Last night while holding me in his arms Alex told me that he liked my post on what I have learned over the last year. He said that he found my comment on how life has many stages and we will change for each stage really hit home for him. He lost both his parents this year and that has made a huge impact on him as a parent and husband. I have noticed he is making extra time for the kids these days and where he was once easier on "family" time being missed he is dead set against letting it happen anymore. He is much more protective of me and harder on me now too, this is a huge thing for us right now. I need to meet him in the middle and make it easier for him by not making him worry so much... Which would be me staying off ladders, not speeding and generally thinking through impulsive ideas a bit more before jumping head first into them. Sigh... All super hard for me, but within my grasp. We promised to grow old together and I am going to do my best to live up to that agreement!!
Wednesday, August 27, 2014
Driving Is Over Rated Anyway!!! :0(
It's a thousand degrees out still so rolling down the windows and letting the wind play havoc with my hair isn't an option.
Plus using the AC on high just eats more gas which causes me to spend more money... Not to mention the smell of said gas is gross, so filling up the tank is not my favorite activity.
I guess listening to music and singing at the top of my lungs can still be done outside a car, just seems more fun while driving. Now that I type that I wonder just how many people have watched me boogie and sing on my way to and from places over the years and got a kick out of it... Or thought maybe I shouldn't be driving. Grrrrrr
I just got a new air freshener for my car too... This could be considered false freshening!! I mean I am technically freshening air that is not being used, that is just soooooo wasteful right?!?
I have seen the light....
I will mend my ways...
For the love of all that is mobile and moving in this world other than me... I WILL DO BETTER!!
I WANT TO DRIVE SOOOOOOOO BAD!!!!
Plus using the AC on high just eats more gas which causes me to spend more money... Not to mention the smell of said gas is gross, so filling up the tank is not my favorite activity.
I guess listening to music and singing at the top of my lungs can still be done outside a car, just seems more fun while driving. Now that I type that I wonder just how many people have watched me boogie and sing on my way to and from places over the years and got a kick out of it... Or thought maybe I shouldn't be driving. Grrrrrr
I just got a new air freshener for my car too... This could be considered false freshening!! I mean I am technically freshening air that is not being used, that is just soooooo wasteful right?!?
I will mend my ways...
For the love of all that is mobile and moving in this world other than me... I WILL DO BETTER!!
I WANT TO DRIVE SOOOOOOOO BAD!!!!
I know it hasn't even been two weeks yet, but this punishment is driving (not literally, ugh) me nuts. I have even asked to be spanked instead of this, but he is not bending an inch. This is the first time he has ever taken my driving privileges away and I am going to REALLY try to make it the last too. I don't care if I get dubbed the granny driver of the century, this lady is not zipping any where ever again.
PROMISE!!!
Friday, August 22, 2014
One Year In - What I have learned...
Alex asked me last night what I have learned over the last year or where my mind was in regards to what I have read here in blog land. I just thought I would share a few things that we discussed...
One of the benefits of this wonderful community is being able to read about how different everyone is, yet how similar in other areas we all are... We all want our relationships to be the best they can be and to be successful. Huge common ground right there! Most of us are using some form of DD to help accomplish this success and happiness within our relationships. For any of this to work, both people in the relationship must give of themselves either in leadership or submission. Not everyone is a born submissive or a born leader and the rules/scenarios of how things are done changes within each relationship.
Commitment:
Commitment is huge!! Let's face it people, it's not easy being in any kind of relationship! It takes work on both sides to communicate and participate for there to be a relationship. Everyone is different which makes it all the more challenging because now you are participating with some one that may or may not agree with, think like or is even willing to give an inch on various topics in life. When two people agree to participate in a relationship and all the aspects of a relationship you need both people to be 100% in it or it won't work. You may have that one person that is willing to take up and give more if that other is not willing to give a full 100% but how long will that really last? Will that relationship really be great enough for that one person giving now over 100% to stick it out?
Worse what if they both start out at 100% on a "improvement" strategy like including a form of DD, but one of them get lazy or decides it just isn't worth the effort. This DD aspect takes work, that is just the truth... The leader is taking on responsibility of the entire family and their partner... That is just huge!! The other person is giving a large part of themselves over to the other to lead and take care of and that is huge too!! You both came together to find a common strategy but when that one person doesn't follow through (or maybe both), now you have two people unhappy and they feel it's time to take away what ever is bugging them. But that very thing was what was brought in to help their relationship in the first place.
I thank God daily that our relationship was pretty much founded on Alex being the leader and DD was just going to be part of our marriage. We agreed and that was just it... Done... Over... We have never once even thought of or spoken of removing it. Have I asked him to be more relaxed.. YES! Have I asked for rules to change or be removed... YES! But never in our 18 years of marriage have we ever talked about it being removed... It is just part of our marriage. We both struggle at times with our roles that we agreed to take, but we have both stayed the course and that to me is a big win.
Submission:
Submission is not easy for me, it is not one of my natural tendencies and that gets me into trouble. But the amount of time over the years I have spent working on this has really helped me now in many ways. Does it still come naturally to me? Nope! :0) Honestly, it's a daily struggle but one that has gotten easier over time. Do I still find times when finding my submission doesn't happen with out help? ABSOLUTELY!! I am human and will always fall short in some way and this will more than likely be one of them... I just know myself after 38 years of life and know how stubborn I can be. (We won't even get into my temper being a major factor either...Ugh) Honestly, I am also a born leader and have a hard time switching gears to let Alex lead us... I just have come to the conclusion that I love this man in such a huge way that I was and still am willing to put my trust in him and let him lead us. It's a challenge, but one I am willing to deal with for the love of this man and my family. Just as I know that he has to love me over the moon and back to put up with some of my crap. :0)
Reading all the blogs out there and seeing how other women are struggling in their submission has been really helpful. Not only have I taken inspiration from these women, but felt like I had company on the days that I read a post but could have written it myself as I had done that same dang thing and was just as unhappy. The posts that were written in celebration over newly found submission or improvement in that area is just as inspiring and I cheer right along with them!! I also then take time to ask myself where I might be in that particular submission and decide if I need to work on it as well.
Which brings us to leadership:
What I feel deep down is that without good leadership...without consistent leadership, it's really hard for any relationship to survive or be healthy. Power struggles will only break away slowly at the foundation of the relationship and eventually do permanent damage. So even on the days that I wish Alex would relax his stance on some areas or just look the other way when I don't keep my end of the deal... I am so VERY glad that he doesn't. Heck, I am so very glad he took the leadership and is willing to be the strong one that will always push and do the hard stuff necessary to keep us on the right track... I sure as heck don't want that job! :)
Lot of thought provocation from reading blogs and seeing how others are working on their marriages or just doing the day to day thing. Which if I am honest, is exactly what Alex and I needed last year when we found these blogs. Our marriage is to a point where we will be empty nesting it soon and our kids are to the age that we don't have them under foot 24/7. We will be left to just love and live with and for each other and it has been a REALLY long time since we just had each other. So finding these blogs and working on focusing more on "us" now will only help us when these kids go out and start their own adventures. Life has its stages and we will change as we meet each stage, but having each other will see us through all the changes.
A year in from discovering this blog land and learning from all the wonderful people posting and sharing...
DD is a tool for some relationships... DD is part of the foundation of a relationship for others... In the end every relationship is as different as the people in them. Alex and I are in it for the long haul and I wouldn't change our relationship or the form of DD we have decided to incorporate for anything.
And I feel like one VERY lucky lady to be in love and be so loved by my husband.
One of the benefits of this wonderful community is being able to read about how different everyone is, yet how similar in other areas we all are... We all want our relationships to be the best they can be and to be successful. Huge common ground right there! Most of us are using some form of DD to help accomplish this success and happiness within our relationships. For any of this to work, both people in the relationship must give of themselves either in leadership or submission. Not everyone is a born submissive or a born leader and the rules/scenarios of how things are done changes within each relationship.
Everyone's glass slipper is a different fit..
Commitment:
Commitment is huge!! Let's face it people, it's not easy being in any kind of relationship! It takes work on both sides to communicate and participate for there to be a relationship. Everyone is different which makes it all the more challenging because now you are participating with some one that may or may not agree with, think like or is even willing to give an inch on various topics in life. When two people agree to participate in a relationship and all the aspects of a relationship you need both people to be 100% in it or it won't work. You may have that one person that is willing to take up and give more if that other is not willing to give a full 100% but how long will that really last? Will that relationship really be great enough for that one person giving now over 100% to stick it out?
Worse what if they both start out at 100% on a "improvement" strategy like including a form of DD, but one of them get lazy or decides it just isn't worth the effort. This DD aspect takes work, that is just the truth... The leader is taking on responsibility of the entire family and their partner... That is just huge!! The other person is giving a large part of themselves over to the other to lead and take care of and that is huge too!! You both came together to find a common strategy but when that one person doesn't follow through (or maybe both), now you have two people unhappy and they feel it's time to take away what ever is bugging them. But that very thing was what was brought in to help their relationship in the first place.
She totally wants that glass slipper back!!
Submission:
Submission is not easy for me, it is not one of my natural tendencies and that gets me into trouble. But the amount of time over the years I have spent working on this has really helped me now in many ways. Does it still come naturally to me? Nope! :0) Honestly, it's a daily struggle but one that has gotten easier over time. Do I still find times when finding my submission doesn't happen with out help? ABSOLUTELY!! I am human and will always fall short in some way and this will more than likely be one of them... I just know myself after 38 years of life and know how stubborn I can be. (We won't even get into my temper being a major factor either...Ugh) Honestly, I am also a born leader and have a hard time switching gears to let Alex lead us... I just have come to the conclusion that I love this man in such a huge way that I was and still am willing to put my trust in him and let him lead us. It's a challenge, but one I am willing to deal with for the love of this man and my family. Just as I know that he has to love me over the moon and back to put up with some of my crap. :0)
No more glass slippers here folks!!
Reading all the blogs out there and seeing how other women are struggling in their submission has been really helpful. Not only have I taken inspiration from these women, but felt like I had company on the days that I read a post but could have written it myself as I had done that same dang thing and was just as unhappy. The posts that were written in celebration over newly found submission or improvement in that area is just as inspiring and I cheer right along with them!! I also then take time to ask myself where I might be in that particular submission and decide if I need to work on it as well.
Which brings us to leadership:
What I feel deep down is that without good leadership...without consistent leadership, it's really hard for any relationship to survive or be healthy. Power struggles will only break away slowly at the foundation of the relationship and eventually do permanent damage. So even on the days that I wish Alex would relax his stance on some areas or just look the other way when I don't keep my end of the deal... I am so VERY glad that he doesn't. Heck, I am so very glad he took the leadership and is willing to be the strong one that will always push and do the hard stuff necessary to keep us on the right track... I sure as heck don't want that job! :)
My King can have it!!
A year in from discovering this blog land and learning from all the wonderful people posting and sharing...
DD is a tool for some relationships... DD is part of the foundation of a relationship for others... In the end every relationship is as different as the people in them. Alex and I are in it for the long haul and I wouldn't change our relationship or the form of DD we have decided to incorporate for anything.
And I feel like one VERY lucky lady to be in love and be so loved by my husband.
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